Pisces: The Fishes
Pisces: The Fishes
For the week of March 12, 2012
Time to take a leap of faith, dear Pisces! You’ve become more practical, logical, and safe over time and the course of happenings in your life. Situations that didn’t go so well for you in the past are in the past, my friend, and have no influence now. While it’s great that you are testing waters with caution, sometimes it’s better to just go for it and jump into a situation with both feet. I don’t want you to become impulsive, in fact, I don’t want you to just cast your fate to the wind, but I do need you to feel confident about yourself in many areas — especially romance — and understand that I believe in you and feel you’ve learned so much over the past couple of years that it’s time to fly with no fear: you know how to do this now. Let’s do this!
I recently wrote you about all the good things coming your way this year and I meant every word. Life is full of ups and downs but no down time is something to linger on with so many sensational aspects almost custom made in the heavens for you. Life is for the living, I always say, and alive, my friend, you are. I know sometimes you can’t believe what you’ve lived though, God bless you, little fish, you’ve been through quite a lot and you’ve come through smelling like roses and not nearly concerned for the thorns any longer — just the beauty of the rose that you are.
March 8th brought us a wonderful Full Moon in Virgo and that Full Moon likely enlightened you as to something creative that you didn’t even realize what something you really wanted to do. If you acted on your creative ideas, some project, something philanthropic, before then, lucky you are as you took the ball the Great Full Moon is and harnessed its power at the right moment. That is not to say that others things you want to do that are now on your clear mind are no good, it’s just that if it’s not pertinent to whatever you already started it’s best to launch this in mid April, not now. The rule is that if it’s new and has nothing to do with something you’re already doing then wait. But if it’s directly related to what you are already doing, what you already put into motion, then go for it. You should enjoy anything creative at this time and you are also blessed because your birthday — your personal new year! — is upon you! With such excellent aspects, including a Golden, Great, Grand Trine so close to your birthday you can’t go wrong, Pisces! This is going to be a year that you never forget and for all good reasons, my love. I’m so happy for you — I could just pop! I’ll contain myself and we shall continue!
This Grand Trine of which I write about is a group of planets that form a triangle in the heavens. They are four planets this time and they are all now perfectly poised in earth signs which is excellent for you because you are a water sign! Water feeds earth of course and produces growth so you see how this will help you grow in many areas of your life. This is the best aspect of them all, many say, and instead of only three planets helping each other help you, there are four and they are all major planets sitting perfectly poised to help us all: Jupiter, Mars, Pluto, and Venus. The planets are in certain houses, sometimes called sectors, and they are as follows: Jupiter and Venus in your third house of travel and communication, Pluto is in your eleventh house of friendships and other associations, Mars is in your seventh house of partners and partnerships where the Full Moon in Virgo was on the 8th, the same house of partnerships. Regarding this last placement, it seems that you are working with someone or hope to work closely with someone for some common goals — it could be a friend, partner — romantic or otherwise — or a coworker, but this is important and it’s likely something creative if it’s not about romance (some people ended relationships around the Full Moon of March 8th, or added some element of conclusion to a relationship recently ended and it was, it seems to me, a good thing to end and a good feeling to have a real sense of closure that I sense you now have about this former relationship).
While anything you needed finalized should have been done at or around the Full Moon of the 8th, you are one of the few that I will say this to: if you didn’t get something finalized and feel you need to finalize something now, or even have to for some reason, you are okay despite the Mercury Retrograde because the Grand Trine is helping you and even protecting you a bit. Just be sure you’ve studied whatever you’re agreeing to from all angles because the typical rules of Mercury Retrograde apply including the usual admonitions that things often change or have to be redone if agreed to or started during this little wacky phase. If you can at all wait then please do wait until at least April 21st when Mercury and Mars (still Retrograde) will both be moving forward.
Writing, lecturing, and communications in general will be favorable for you now and you may find some new niche that you’ve previously not explored or didn’t put enough time into checking out. You should feel a sense of inspiration now in some close to your heart idea that you have on your mind. You’ve felt a little lazy about things and really it was not laziness at all but rather a sense that you were not yet inspired enough to write, speak, or communicate these ideas. You will now find that your writing and speaking skills are improved and people want to hear and read what you have to write and say. Someone from your past, someone you know, will likely play a part in this or you will collaborate together on some project already discussed in the past. Do please communicate with those persons you’ve collaborated before and you will find they are more than happy and willing to help you with what’s important to you, to the benefit of you both. Just do not start anything NEW that you haven’t worked on significantly yourself or the other person before–that’s part of the rules of the Mercury Retrograde phase: we do not start new things at this time if at all possible. We only work on what’s established, period.
Lots of surprises on the horizon for you, dear Pisces, and I want you ready to take advantage of them all. You have been pressed for cash lately and something could come up that works for you to help increase your cash flow or potential for the same. For now I want you to know that everything is alright, it’s going to be okay — no! — it’s going to be FANTASTIC so do get your ducks in a row because NOW is the time to be ready for the rest of your life, Pisces, and it’s going to be a GOOD TIME.
Contemplate: You should be feeling alive and happy, Pisces, no longer the person stuck in a rut and in the doldrums as you were. Forget about the past, it’s so gone I can’t even remember what it was — can you? No? Good. Now, with so many planets favoring you it’s time to get your ideas in motion and those that you’ve not yet started on around March 9th you should table and just think and brain storm about. Anything you’ve already started or that has to do with someone from your past, go for it and be ready: surprises are in store for YOU! God bless!
For the week of March 5, 2012
There is a lesson in a situation you are all too familiar with, dear Pisces, that is likely going to present and repeat itself. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. I recently wrote you several admonitions about allowing the past to enter into your present life. You’ve worked on yourself too hard to allow the past to come creeping and crawling back into your present so that it does not affect the future. I hope you know what I’m talking about because you should! Someone in particular that caused you great harm is going to make an attempt again — I cannot say who this is, you know that — but you know who this person or these persons are. You are a good person and you always see the good in everyone but there is such a thing as hurting yourself at the expense of others and being some kind of sacrifice. Think back to any person or situation that caused you great harm and expect they will come back for whatever it is because it’s likely revenge. I don’t like to write things like this but I will not sleep tonight if I do not warn you. You may have been experiencing premonitions about this person or experiencing a sense of deja vu. If so, please heed the warnings! This person is up to no good and does NOT have your best intentions at heart. I’m warning you that this person would like to come back and take something out on you in the guise of wanting to make amends. No matter what the apology is I want you to run in the opposite direction! Think “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, if you will: this person is going to try to bring trouble to your door and you are the target. I wish you all the best, Pisces, I cannot tell you what to do but I can beg you to please not communicate or interact with such a person as I’ve just described in any way at all. This will pass, perhaps it’s a test, but whatever it is it does not bode well for you. Think defensively and pray that this person or situation leaves you well enough alone.
Contemplate: Do not, I repeat! DO NOT have anything to do with anyone from your past, any situation tied to the past, that caused you great harm. There is a snake in the grass and no matter how we dress a snake, it’s a snake! God bless you and protect you at all times. Pray and if you don’t know how, learn. I’ll be praying for you tonight, dear Pisces friends. If someone knocks at the door and you aren’t expecting company, for a few days, do NOT open the door. It could be a freaking Trojan horse!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, WEDNESDAY, February 22nd, ERIC O. PARKER!
For the week of Monday, February 20, 2012
WHAT a fantastic WEEK ahead for you, Pisces!
Let’s put it this way: You’re going to have a real sense of knowing that what happened in the past was meant to be. You’re going to feel you crossed over into the understanding that things were because they were and that they are now no longer those things past. You will KNOW that you are now who you are meant to be and that every day you will become MORE of who you really are and WANT to be! The choice is now YOURS, Pisces, YOURS ALONE! Move forward — go for it — MOVE into YOUR future! This is an exciting time, indeed!
You may already know, dear Pisces, that great NEPTUNE entered your sign in for the first time in 165 YEARS and will remain in your sign, Pisces, for 14 years! The last time this happened was from 1847-1862, so I don’t think there’s anyone ALIVE today that has ever experienced Neptune in Pisces! It’s time for a shout out to the NEW because this one’s for YOU, Pisces!!!
Pisces is home to Neptune because Pisces is RULED by Neptune and is at it’s best in its own comfortable sign. For you, that means all of Neptune’s best influences are YOURS and the years to come will be more to your liking than ever in your entire LIFE. Neptune brings gifts of creativity and Pisces are already gifted creatively in many ways. You should be feeling like a brand-new you is emerging, and you are! You are evolving into what you have always wanted to be! This is the time to know that people love you, care about you, and respect you! You will be greatly admired, more so than ever before. I dare say you will enjoy this change after having felt a bit trampled in general over the years. Neptune will take a little time to get comfy in Pisces and it will be very noticeable to you, these changes that are coming will feel GOOD to you, and if you’ve any doubt put those out of your mind immediately and that’s an ORDER! I write these words with much love for you, Pisces, as you are so gentle and loving just the way you are. But, good changes are coming your way and are here to STAY for a mighty long time! Let us look at the influences for this week — but I’m so excited for you, you have no idea! — so I’ll try to stay on task best I can!
ANYTHING related to the creative is what you should try, Pisces! Don’t tell me you aren’t — in fact, if you tell me you are not creative I’m going to ask you again what day you were born. LOL! Everything is changing for you, pretty fish! And the Sun sparkles just for YOU! You’re going to see more clearly and at the same time you’ll be able to dream with great clarity as well. Whatever you dream, you can do! I promise you this! So, dream big, good fish! Dream big! With a beautiful imagination such as yours, anything at all is possible!
What was holding you back before — just so you know — was that Neptune was in Aquarius since 1998. In this placement, your 12th house, you were in a more quiet mode, more behind the scenes, working for and behind others. That was okay for a while but it’s not what’s going to be your reality now! You’ll be in a kind of spotlight and each day you will become more comfortable with this. Now, it’s time to be born again into a new LIFE and a new way of living, learning, being, and thinking. This is very good news, indeed, for now is the time to be who you truly are, not who you thought you were. All of that will fade into the past and you will really feel ALIVE for the first time in a very long time. You’ll feel more confident in expressing your views, speaking your mind, being in the front and center, and never shying away again. You’ll love the way you look and you might change things about your appearance. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to revamp your look with a new hairstyle, a weight change, or an entire new look and this is the time to change, Pisces, and it will all look good on you! A new attitude is something to start with and I bet you’ve been working on that already, sensing that the changes were coming and working with those changes for your own best interests and less for others, as you usually do. This is not to say you won’t care for and about others but it does mean that for ONCE you will take better care of you and your goals and dreams will no longer sit on the back burner simmering. People are going to SEE these changes in you and you will likely meet a lot of new people! You won’t be too concerned about what kinds of new friendships and alliances, relationships and partnerships you will form because you will embrace them all — and you should!
Tomorrow, February 21st, the New Moon is in PISCES, also, and will be very close to Neptune’s orbit. This is the TIME — how about THE TIME — to start making those changes and working with every opportunity that comes your way. I’m sure you feel this! I know you do. Now, grab the bull by the horns and make those dreams a reality by MAKING everything you have hoped, dreamed, and wished for come true. Certainly, nothing will happen all on its own but like magic, MUCH will begin to happen for you if you are clear and of present mind. This is the time to look at every offer and chance at something, anything, that comes your way and do pay attention to all things going on! The only thing I’d like to stress is to seek your own counsel in all things. You’ve learned many valuable lessons and some at your own expense: who better to discern and decide what’s good for you, Pisces? RIGHT: YOU. Lots of big breaks coming your way including lots of good luck and good fortune courtesy Jupiter and Pluto during this New Moon. Remember that New Moons have an influence of about two weeks so use this time wisely. Lots on the front including real good luck. In fact, you are so lucky that some opportunities and betterment may seemingly fall from the sky right into your lap! There will be lots of people who come out of nowhere (Jupiter, surprises) who want to help you in many ways so do say yes when someone wishes to help you with something. You will become more popular than ever and people will just like you because they DO! Opportunities may come to you that all tie to some form of communication (Jupiter in your house of communications of all kinds) so pay close attention to anything that has to do with any form of communication! If you feel there have been people working against you, no worries. They will be visible to you soon enough and will make their thoughts known to you and what better thing to at least see who your friends are and to see who your enemies are? No worries at all. That’s Mars in your 7th house just shedding light on people and what they think of you. Those born near 3/7-21 will likely know what I’m talking about in terms of hidden enemies or those speaking or acting against you, even behind the scenes. I personally prefer for people to come right out and tell me what they think of me because it’s far better to know who those people are. Mars will draw this person or persons out like poison and you will have done well if you’ve fought back, for once, and said no, and you may still have a chance to confront this person and tell them to take a HIKE. You’re not one to mess with these days, Pisces! Something about this person, likely one person, has some tie to the end of January, so think January 23rd, plus or minus three days. This person may have had some leverage over you or challenged you over something related to money or finances. Again, those born near 3/7-21 will know what this is all about. You could see more of this middle of April but we’ll hold off on that discussion for now. Mars is now Retrograde so that means you won’t get any new information about this person or situation until then. We wait for now and again, no worries! Saturn has also been causing you some financial stress but will be retrograde until June 25th which means Saturn won’t bother you too much for now. This Saturn Retrograde will be good to revise plans, renegotiate, and rethink your financial plans or any financial related dealings. The better news is that Venus takes a trip into your house of finances and income, 2/8-3/5, which should further emphasize that any opportunities that come to you should seriously be evaluated and considered. Again, only you know what’s good for you but DO pay attention to all opportunity that comes your way!
Travel is possible after the 25th and you may travel just about anywhere, maybe even close to home — it doesn’t matter — a small trip anywhere would be good for you, even downtown for a walk in a park where you could meet interesting people. REALLY good luck around the corner for those born on or near 2/24! I mean, we’re talking a LOT of good luck for you! Thank the Sun and Jupiter for this good luck and when you look up at the sky and see the Sun, well, go ahead and blow a kiss (don’t look directly AT the Sun LOL) and say, “Thanks for the LOVE!”
Bottom line is this: You’ve been through a lot — so much, that I was very sad for Pisces for a long time. I felt their pain, I suffered with at least one, close Pisces friend who I thought could not win if she tried to lose! Everything would seem okay just to fall apart around her. (You’re reading this, and you know who you are). Some years were worse than others and when things seemed to improve last year, hope upon hope, it all felt apart anyway. Not ANYMORE, Pisces, never again! Now, things will go YOUR way! Dream, create — keep one foot on the ground and be aware of your choices — but KNOW that things are soon going exactly the way that’s best for YOU and you are going to feel better and better each day! If you are born February 21, plus or minus five days, aw DANG! You’ve a whole YEAR of fantastic coming at you! I’m really happy for you, Pisces! You deserve this better time and all that is to COME.
Love is in the air, too, Pisces! If you have been in a relationship for some time and things are good, you may be thinking of a serious commitment like getting engaged or even married! If you’re not in a serious relationship, no worries! Love is pretty and bright and in the stars for you soon, precious Pisces. Don’t forget this is Leap Year, my friend! Anything is possible!
Contemplate: What’s there to contemplate? EVERYTHING. It’s ALL going to be good, better, best, and there WILL be improvement on all things that you’ve been working on including the way you perceive yourself, my fishy fish! So, I put it this way: if you’ve been doing the work, you will reap the reward. Never forget a lesson learned, my friend, and never repeat. The past is gone and no more — so go on and party a bit knowing many good things are coming to YOU!
For the week of Monday, February 6, 2012
You used to go back into the past to take something out of it, to relive it, to feel it again, Pisces. Now, what are you up to going back into the past, into those dreams, failures, heartbreak? Ah, I see what you’re doing! It’s not as bad as before but it’s not what I want you to do! You are now — ahem — mature enough to go back into the past to punish yourself for failures: WRONG — not bad, but wrong. Forget the past and your mistakes, forget the past and who you were because that’s NOT who you are now and people see the amazing changes in you. Lest you become nostalgic, for a moment, don’t bother reliving anything from your past even if it’s to see where you’ve come from. That doesn’t matter now. You are well on your way to living a new life and can make it what you want it to be and have no need to base it on what you once had, lost, failed at, excelled at, nothing. What have you been wanting to change about yourself, Pisces, everything? Well, you already did that! You are not the person you saw in the mirror one year ago, let alone yesterday, so forget the mirror — better yet — buy a new mirror! Dedicate it to yourself and the people you love and those who love you. There are so many people who admire you for who you are and don’t care to know where you’ve been. Even family and friends who once doubted you see this change in you and even they want to be LIKE you so please do not let them down! Thinking about the future sometimes is melancholy as we cannot change the past. But the way to handle this melancholy is to say, “Well, that’s all history and tomorrow is a mystery!” as my son likes to say. Yes, the past is sometimes painful but what happened had to, no way around it. You’d not be the beautiful you of today if those things had not transpired exactly the way they did. I’m sorry for anyone’s pain but I’m not sorry when I see how they grew from it and lived through it to emerge a beautiful butterfly — changed from the previous lesser state. Dream, envision, learn to create: that is what you can do now. Look at your life from all angles but not too far behind today, perhaps just one day ago, and you will see you may care less for anything that’s not recent history. You won’t want the pain of the past anymore and will learn to forget. Finances should be more on your mind these days and that’s a good way to create the comfortable reality and self reliance that you need to grow further as yourself and no one else. You want to know what your sense of security is and what that means to ONLY you. That’s a good thing even though finances fluctuate these days. Romance and relationship are a bit painful but only because you are now analyzing yourself and former motives — not necessarily with any real interest about others involved — only for you. You are very sensitive about dreams now and that’s alright, you’re used to that already. Neptune’s entrance into your sign will really cause the subconscious to speak to you. This is a very good time of year for you and you are advised to not confuse the conscious with the subconscious, the waking state with the sleeping, got that? This may be a challenge but you can do this. Avoid blending the two — in fact, separate them. Wake in the morning and shake off the nuisance of sleep and dreams. Don’t discount them but don’t over analyze them–just filter them better, categorize them, that’s all you need to do with them and no more. You are getting a test run of who you are and how to handle yourself. Enjoy this period of testing because it’s not a bad thing, it’s not a challenge, it’s a gift much like the universe saying, “Your gown is ready, so is your cloak. See how they fit and let’s make adjustments where necessary.” That is all — your gown is READY!
Contemplate: All is well, little fish! All is well. Just be mindful of the past and not dwell on it. There is no more need for much more than a passing glance — sideways. Move into the future and pay attention to what others are saying: they are proud of you! Swim along then, little fish!
For the week of Monday, January 30, 2012
There’s nothing worse than letting someone tell you that what you are doing is wrong. Except for believing it. If you’ve been doing what you need to do then why bother explaining that to the next person? All you are doing is engaging drama and you will play at least supporting role if you don’t nip this in the bottom! Perhaps you are being criticized for recent or past behaviors yet again. Why not just explain that you are busy and don’t need to tie your mind and time up into the past which is already gone and dealt with? It seems to me this critique comes from those closest to you and that’s why it’s harder to deal with.
Time is of the essence to get your life in order and that will include saying no to other’s dramas, especially ties to dramas in the past. The last thing you need right now is you or anyone else taking you on a hellish road trip into the past where there is nothing for you and nothing of value anymore.
Consider life is a journey and that your car does not go in reverse: you cannot go back, you’ve made your amends, you are to go forward because there’s nowhere else to go whether even you like it or not. Take this time to realize that your own thoughts can pull you back into time and the more you do that, the more you dredge up the past and everything about, causing dealt with emotions to surface once again.
Take the time to explore the past and any childhood trauma and resolve it once and for all. That’s the only thing you need to take from the past into the present — and when you do that, leave it all behind. It’s time to move into the future where you belong and you can’t do that if you are looking backward into the past.
Contemplate: The past is where it is, go in there only to fix what needs to be, and to say goodbye for the last time, Pisces.
For the week of Monday, January 23, 2012
Pisces, you may be subject to personal or professional criticism at this time. Perhaps your own family is judging you according to a recent behavior or a bad habit of yours or something you’re doing, not doing, something you said, didn’t say…the list could go on. If others to judge you I certainly hope it’s not on the workplace or in a professional sense — and especially if you’re being judged unfairly. Without knowing you personally or looking at planets in your houses, I cannot tell you where this criticism is coming from. Try to understand what the next person or group of persons see or perceive by stepping outside of yourself. Don’t feel the situation is personal unless it has been made personal, i.e., if this is family judging you. Anger is an emotion that can stem from hurt so if your feelings are hurt over this, try to let that emotion pass. If someone is being unfair to you, speak up. If this is a business matter, be tactful about it but don’t lose respect for yourself by keeping silent for too long. If possible, just observe this person and decide why it is they have it in for you and act accordingly. Sometimes there is no why and that’s much worse. If possible, figure out what could possibly possess someone to figure out what their problem is with you.
Contemplate: If it’s not constructive criticism and it’s in your face, it’s also unfair. Speak up.
Monday, January 16, 2012
Pisces, you’ve not been the best at trusting your gut and you’ve learned a lot of things about people and mostly about yourself like I wrote to you last week. Now, while you’ve so much motivation and enthusiasm, while you feel so great and good, it’s as if you’ve more than a little hesitation and trepidation about someone new in your life or some new situation. You feel like you just can’t trust anyone completely though you used to trust blindly. Of course, once bitten, twice shy. Twice bitten we could imagine. And though I wish I could tell you, like Capricorn, that your fears are based in your imagination, I have to tell you that you’re gut is talking to you — and that it’s right. If you’re dealing with some symptom or semblance of the past you’d better look twice and three times behind you. All is not as it appears this time and if you look closely, this situation that’s causing you a little restlessness, disturbing your peace, either has to do with someone or something in your past — something you thought you dealt with. Some may say you are imagining things and sometimes you’ve been prone to that. But this situation, likely a person, is not someone you should trust and I am so sorry to deliver this news. It may not be that a new person has wronged you yet, it’s just something about them feels oddly familiar and in a way that makes you nervous or ill at ease. It could be, perhaps, that you do not trust your judgment since you’ve erred in this area before. If this is a work or business related situation or tied to a person in some control over you, beware and take the necessary precautions because, of course, you don’t want to openly state that you do not trust this person — unless you can afford to do so. If this is a romantic interest and something about this person is tied to the past or reminds you too much of it, my strong advice to you, dear Pisces, is to use your instincts and to get away as quick as a slippery fish — and do not make waves — this person can be quickly charming and equally vindictive. If no one fits this bill at this time, watch for this person to make an entrance or appearance soon. Pay attention to your intuition: you know it’s worked well for you before though you’ve only learned that through trial and error, trial and error, and repeating the same trials and errors for no reason other than at times it takes you many times to learn something and that’s fine since you do, or should have learned something from it all. You do not have all the information and something is hidden or otherwise withheld from you. Now, with this information I suggest you carefully research potential of motive from this person a la “You’re Being A Little Too Good To Me”, a song that you can google and produced Jelly Bean Benitez and sung by Elisa Fiorillo, I think that spelling is right. Anyway, consider that if someone is being a little too good to you or is a little too good to be true and your belly tells you something’s not quite right, it’s because you’re right: something is not quite right. It will pass, Pisces, but only as soon as you figure out exactly who or what is causing you this small anxiety that you should take care to pay attention to. Likewise, if you don’t feel it, you’d better pay twice the attention. God bless you, Pisces, make good choices.
Contemplate: If it stinks, it’s rotten. And if you eat it, it WILL make you sick.
Monday, January 9, 2012
Pisces, you should have learned a lot about yourself and others last year. So why do you continue to hold onto that which didn’t serve you then? Like Aquarius and Cancer, Cancer having learned their lessons and Aquarius understanding now, you are advised to let go of anything and anyone, any connection to the past, including your memories. Let them all go. Pisces is a water sign but not an over emotional one. They are sensitive but not overly so like their Cancer friends. You may wonder why I’m telling you this and you may feel you’ve let it all go: you certainly have not. Even the effects that the past had on you are not to be retained in the present. If you fall into the category of types that hold on too much, without going into personology, then you are in for quite a wake up call when history does indeed repeat itself: but not because it’s in the present, but because you keep reaching into the past. You don’t want to be that person, do you? It alienates even the least intuitive person. They can tell there is something “wrong” with you and in short order you will find them gone. It doesn’t matter if this is a recent event, say, last year, or if this was an event or series of events that go back 20 years. Do you not understand that the past is the past and there is no value in beating a dead horse that’s dust now? If you’ve been reaching into the past you will know. You will keep talking about it. You won’t let it rest. You won’t let it die. No one is responsible for your mistakes, no one made them for you. Don’t hold those mistakes over your own or anyone else’s head lest they tire of you. Even a job 20 years ago that hurt you in some way is nonsensical to resurrect other than to be sure, in your own mind, you are not repeating. People do this unconsciously, you are now acting consciously as if any of the above possibilities happened yesterday or this morning! If you feel no one is listening to you, listen to yourself, record your conversations, look at your journals or notes, take note of what you are now consciously doing in the present that pertains to the past, and how you are dragging it into your daily life. If I told you that the past is gone and you have nothing but the present, like a person with amnesia, you’d be better off if you believed me. Divorces happen. We make mistakes. We hurt people. Do we want that held over our heads? Since you just said “no”, then why do you jump on the soap box and hold everything that is your responsibility to let go, over everyone else? Drop it with the dead horse. Let that thing rest! Leave the past where it belongs. It’s gone. Live fully, live in the present, and forget everything about your life that isn’t happening now. If you feel there’s value in the past, consider you’re not living today: you’re living in the past and you will repeat your mistakes but no one is going to go on the ride to gloom with you. Take responsibility for your actions and then let it go. Don’t apologize for the past or you keep resurrecting the dead who want very much to be let alone. Work on yourself today and try to make it a point to rely on yourself and no one else for advice.
Contemplate: You’re living your life, no one can or wants to live it for you.