Friday, January 20, 2012
Sometimes problems seem so enormous that we feel we can’t deal with them. In relationships, or seeking one, we often feel we just can’t go on, can’t get anything done, can find anyone we like, etc. For single folks this isn’t as bad as it sounds: if you’re alone at least you’re not in bad company, right? Well, that sucks! I supposed I’d rather be alone than in bad company but I wouldn’t sit on my butt not trying at all and sinking into some emotional quicksand of depression. Try not to let the idea that things are never going to change for you sit in your head for too long. If you’re sitting at home reading this, don’t let this become another Saturday night spent at home thinking instead of being out and about even if it’s you, alone, and a bookstore: there are PEOPLE there! People are amazing to meet and while it may not be on the top of your list of priorities, you may find that someone you meet may just be what you need to pull yourself out of the quicksand. Committed Geminis may be feeling like they are stuck in such a rut they can’t fix their relationships. But consider that there’s more to fix than just the other person because the first person you have to fix is you. Things may not be going very well at the moment but it doesn’t mean it’s going to last forever. You’ve learned a few lessons about relationships and some harder to learn and accept than others. Make it a point to fix yourself before you try fixing — or criticizing your partner.
Contemplate: You don’t have to sit there and sink: get out and meet people even at a grocery store. You don’t have to fix anyone else, but you do need to work on yourself.