I’ll do my best to keep up with everything but really, what I’d like to share most with you is HOPE; everything’s going to be alright.
No! Everything’s going to be AMAZING.
Much love to you! God bless.
Sometimes the simplest of things we can do for ourselves we don’t do very often, if ever at all. We look in the mirror and think ‘oh my God. Look at this…oh my…look at that…’ and walk away defeated. But there is no opponent. There is no Tyson coming at us from the opposite corner. We don’t even stand our ground long enough to really get a good look at the person in the mirror; we walk away quickly to avoid looking long at all.
The enemy isn’t the unfaithful partner that tanked our self-esteem, or the mean-spirited, so-called friend who doesn’t lift us up when we’re down because they “don’t know what it’s like not to be perfect.” It’s not the bully on the black top who tormented us at school or the group of populars who didn’t invite us out for a burger after a big game. The greatest enemy we face is the one who walks up to the mirror at least once a day, usually first thing in the morning, and stares right back.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why can’t we just love ourselves the way we are, for who we are, without putting so much emphasis on the way we look? I know it sounds trite, but the media in all its glossy glory with its digitally manipulated human weapons isn’t selling us anything that makes us feel better about looking in the mirror; it usually tries to sell us near impossible standards of beauty that are just as impossible to achieve naturally. I wish more beauty and grooming products were marketed to us as simply and directly as dental floss picks. (more…)
“Every wakeful step, every mindful act is the direct path to awakening. Wherever you go, there you are.” –Buddha
I’m always honored when anyone asks me for help of one kind or another. I am working on some projects that should make it easier to get more information out to you on more of a schedule. While I wish I could attend to each person the way I prefer, I know it’s not possible for each one of you to sit with me, personally, on a couch, under hypnosis, or under the spell of one of my best chicken soup recipes and sent back into the world with a kiss on your forehead. I do want to tell you this: the information that comes to you, in one way or another, from one experience or another, in ways you expect and the unexpected, is exactly what you need at the time you receive it. (more…)
What a way to start the day, right? The wrong side of the bed may seem like no fun when you’re pulling on your grumpy pants, but there is wisdom in even the worst morning. If you do wake up in the worst way be sure to say “God bless it!” in your loudest voice! Even if you’re too pissy to see the bright side of things, I’m sure you’ll appreciate what I’m about to write even if you never tell me. That’s okay, GRUMPY PANTS!
THE WORLD isn’t the same as it was 10, 20, or 30 years ago. I was born in 1968 so I clearly remember being a child in the ’70s, a teen in the ’80’s, an adult and mother in the ’90s, and watched the ball drop for the year 2000. This is a better world today, I think. I see people are more real, more open, more human. (more…)
Are the holidays something to be survived, like a ship wreck or something? It just occurred to me that there are a lot of “helpful” articles and how-tos out there that aren’t very helpful at all.; they are depressing. If one weren’t depressed enough, reading about how to “survive” the holidays seems like a prison sentence!
Not everyone is ensconced in the breast of family during the holidays. Not everyone is at a Norman Rockwell house, with a Norman Rockwell mom and dad, or a Norman Rockwell table full of pleasant people saying pleasant. Some people are at their family homes, alright, and it doesn’t always go very well. Many families are used to shouting, fighting, cussing –even boxing matches between drunk uncles with grandmother shouting, “Kick him in the balls! Get him!” Unfortunately, I’m not kidding. I’ve seen a few holidays very similar to what I’m describing. One of them was at a family reunion at my own house. I never held a family reunion at my house again. Actually, come to think of it, no one ever held a family reunion after at all. (more…)
I asked my friends today (my Facebook) family a question: What is the secret to happiness? Many friends had many different things to say about what makes them happy. What makes you happy? What is your secret to happiness? This is a post for everyone who responded to my questions and I appreciate them so much! This is also for everyone who wonders about happiness, whether they are or not (maybe you wonder) and what you can do to change your thinking about happiness.
Everyone, ladies and gentlemen, brothers and sisters: What beautiful thoughts on what makes you happy! Everything I’ve read is right on, right on! Everyone has shared something that makes sense — what makes them happy — and knowing that you know something or many things that makes you happy — and my asking you what that is — has caused you to think on it, write it down, and read what others have to say, too. Perhaps you’ve discovered other ways that make you happy. Perhaps there are some treasures here that you’d never thought of. Certainly, for me, there are many things written here that I never thought about in terms of my own happiness. (more…)
Thought for the evening, perhaps one you might find something of value in: how are you feeling? Are you feeling like you’ve effected nothing toward your personal tasks, challenges, or goals? That’s not a good way to think so I’d like to offer you another way to consider these moments of apparent inertia — a kind of neutral gear of the mind.
When moments like the above mentioned come and perhaps you’re not motivated to do anything, even things that you know you need to do but feel you’re procrastinating about, consider that your brain — your mind — may be a little tired and in need of distraction. You may feel you need to do one million and one things or you’ll not feel better about yourself.
What I’d like you to do when these moments come is to think that your brain is telling you to stop, relax, and do nothing. Perhaps distract yourself with a mundane task like scrubbing the hard water deposits out of your commode (something I just did that I usually leave for moments when I have time…which I never often do). Maybe cuddle up with a favorite book or bowl of popcorn and a favorite, feel-good movie, and let yourself feel good about doing something for yourself for a change! When challenging, disappointing, or other downer times are apparent, it’s good to do something to ease your mind and even still it for a little while. Maybe cleaning something is your thing (it has to be done, anyway), maybe catch up on neglected laundry: wash it, dry it, fold it, actually put it away. Sort something — that sounds odd, right? — but many people find peace in sorting things like books, costume jewelry, or even just some family photos you’ve not put into boxes or places where you will work on them when you have a moment for one or two to frame. Don’t bother sorting through your mail because that might stress you out should there be a forgotten bill or other debt to pay: leave that for tomorrow morning because tonight you’re not going to sleep if you think about something that’s already stressful.
Take a cup of tea or some other soothing drink or snack and take a nice shower and get ready for sleep. Do something for yourself: most things can wait for the next day and you won’t rest your mind fretting about obligations when you should be thinking peaceful things. Get some rest tonight and we’ll talk more tomorrow. Much love to you all!
God bless you tonight, tomorrow, and always.
So often, I think my life is currently pretty boring and flat! But, when I do what I love, that is to help others, and they let me know they like something I did, wrote, said…well, I feel pretty happy again! I love seeing people happy! Put those bummers away and think SUMMER! Happiness is not for some, it is for all. When we say, “Hey! I want to be freaking happy! I AM A HAPPY TYPE!” Then the clouds part and the sun shines…just for US! Do that — smile! Look up no matter the weather and say, “AHHH!” And let that sunshine in! Some days are not as sunny, apparently, but remember no matter what the sky looks like or clouds forebode, the sun IS shining! Don’t forget!
Even in the darkest moon…the sun is just around the CORNER! LOOK FOR IT!
Much love and SUNSHINE to you all!