Sometimes the simplest of things we can do for ourselves we don’t do very often, if ever at all. We look in the mirror and think ‘oh my God. Look at this…oh my…look at that…’ and walk away defeated. But there is no opponent. There is no Tyson coming at us from the opposite corner. We don’t even stand our ground long enough to really get a good look at the person in the mirror; we walk away quickly to avoid looking long at all.
The enemy isn’t the unfaithful partner that tanked our self-esteem, or the mean-spirited, so-called friend who doesn’t lift us up when we’re down because they “don’t know what it’s like not to be perfect.” It’s not the bully on the black top who tormented us at school or the group of populars who didn’t invite us out for a burger after a big game. The greatest enemy we face is the one who walks up to the mirror at least once a day, usually first thing in the morning, and stares right back.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why can’t we just love ourselves the way we are, for who we are, without putting so much emphasis on the way we look? I know it sounds trite, but the media in all its glossy glory with its digitally manipulated human weapons isn’t selling us anything that makes us feel better about looking in the mirror; it usually tries to sell us near impossible standards of beauty that are just as impossible to achieve naturally. I wish more beauty and grooming products were marketed to us as simply and directly as dental floss picks. (more…)
“Every wakeful step, every mindful act is the direct path to awakening. Wherever you go, there you are.” –Buddha
I’m always honored when anyone asks me for help of one kind or another. I am working on some projects that should make it easier to get more information out to you on more of a schedule. While I wish I could attend to each person the way I prefer, I know it’s not possible for each one of you to sit with me, personally, on a couch, under hypnosis, or under the spell of one of my best chicken soup recipes and sent back into the world with a kiss on your forehead. I do want to tell you this: the information that comes to you, in one way or another, from one experience or another, in ways you expect and the unexpected, is exactly what you need at the time you receive it. (more…)
THE WORLD isn’t the same as it was 10, 20, or 30 years ago. I was born in 1968 so I clearly remember being a child in the ’70s, a teen in the ’80’s, an adult and mother in the ’90s, and watched the ball drop for the year 2000. This is a better world today, I think. I see people are more real, more open, more human. (more…)
I know things have been really hard for a lot of people this year. These first six months of 2014 felt more like an extension of the worst months of 2013. I didn’t escape the punishment, trust me. So much of my life needed correcting that the universe felt it necessary to stack lessons on me all at once. And I worked with each element each time. And I cried a lot. And I prayed. (more…)
The last six months have not been easy ones, my friends. There have been many challenges that we’ve had to face with bravery. Here we are on the eve of July — and I won’t write “already” because it’s been a long six months! But, the challenges that kept coming up this first half of 2014 were truly for our own good! It was an almost constant fire season for many, with fires popping up before the previous one was out. The wind would kick up and bring the fires we thought we put out back to life! And no sooner did we turn our backs than the one we weren’t facing were alight again. Now, the thing is that if we have been wise we’ve not been trying to outsmart those fires or running away from them; we’ve been dealing with the flames and locating the ignition point! We’ve been looking for what is causing the fires and we may have looked in the mirror and discovered the arson!
If you’ve been doing the inner work then you’ve been putting out those fires once and for all and you excommunicated that damn arsonist from your life. The bottom line is that by the end of 2014 most of us will see that all the hard work we put into putting out the fires, all the work we put into locating the source of the fires, was for our very best and highest good. Too often we make choices that are not good for us while our bodies give us every indication that we are playing with fire–but we’re surprised when we get burned! And sometimes our choices put the people we love most, the people closest to us, in danger, too.
This weekend, last few days of June, make sure the fires are ALL out, that there are NO embers, that you’ve cleared all the dry brush in your mind that is so much dangerous kindling. Make a list of any problems that you still need to solve and create a workable action plan and implement it. At the end of these first six months of 2014, you may discover that you’re a pro at creating nice, wide firebreaks between you and anyone who plays with matches! Take that knowledge and pay it forward. Teach someone else how to keep from setting fires in their lives. God bless you and keep you safe.
So many of you — of us — a little tense, perhaps tired of the astrology thus far, and rightly so. We’ve lived what is honestly more like a very long 2013 up to this point. It’s like 2014 has not started and I’m going to offer you this: 2014 kind of hasn’t really started yet, true. But it is soon! So just tie up the loose ends from 2013 and get those ends that keep fraying under control Let the problems that surface not be problems at all — let them be your guideposts to help you detect unfinished business — then finish as best you can. If you can’t do the best job wrapping things up, if things still seem unsettled, all you can do is your best, okay — right? There’s nothing more you can do. If you have a particularly troublesome situation, talk to someone you trust for some feedback. Be careful who you talk to, okay, because there is the element — especially today — that if you talk to the wrong person (say a coworker, someone you’re working with who may…carry what you say forward) and what you say could be used to color you at some point in the near future. Men shouldn’t talk to women at work about marriage or relationship problems, especially, and neither should women talk to men. If you don’t know why, it would take an hour to explain unless I say, “DUH!” It opens the door to love triangles. (more…)
The little boys are off to school tomorrow and I’m so sorry I woke them early this morning! I’m over a week behind schedule and I’ll be catching up as quickly as I can. Thank you for your patience while I manage many things and try to get to each of you as quickly as I can. As you can imagine, my days are packed and now a little more loaded than usual. But it’s all good, I say! Tomorrow I hope to have another day. And while I’m a bit tired I can say that I do this for you because I love you all, very much. I care about you. I worry with you when you worry and I suffer when you do. But life is not all a suffering or at least, it’s not meant to be. Anything I write is meant to be something to think about, not necessarily to be taken as the only advice or path possible. But, while I take the time to write for you, I’m thinking about you and wondering, “What is the best advice I have at this time?” I’m also thinking about what I’d do if I were you. Life is a series of moments and nothing more. What we should look forward to is each new day and another chance to start over, right wrongs, help ourselves get better, live better, align ourselves with God and Spirit, and help others, too. That’s what I try to do for you! There is much good in the world and that means where there is good there is also bad. What are we to do? Fear the bad things and bad times? Or, are we better off working through the challenges we often face and looking forward to better times? I guess I’d have to say both are correct: we are to consider the bad while not dwelling on it, in a nutshell, just protecting ourselves from it. Live in the moment, be mindful of the present, and create the future you want for yourself. No one can do that for you, I can’t teach you how to live your life but I can help you understand, certainly, what could be better options for you!
Fall and Winter: as the seasons change, so do we. The last three months of the year are very valuable. It’s not an accounting practice and has nothing to do with your finances but it does have to do with being accountable to yourself. When we are accountable to ourselves we take responsibility FOR ourselves. No one can live your life for you and no one is responsible for your life or choices but you. There are traditions that include New Year’s Eve in the United States and other places of the world that focus on the end of the year and the beginning of the next. I don’t necessarily like the idea of much contemplation when there are so many other preparations to make: company parties, family gatherings, social outings and the like. Also, the added celebratory social drinking doesn’t really much make for a clear head but it does make for a sense of melancholy leaving some of us singing, “Auld Lang Syne”: not much fun when people are crying or telling you they “really, really love you.” LOL, going within, contemplating life, is best done at sober times without added stress and distraction of holidays — and drinking!
Contemplating, taking stock of one’s own life, isn’t optional.